Appreciating Me As Me - Not Letting Today Pass

Author: Weiting Bollu  |  February 2022 with September 2022 Update

For those who know me, I am very big on self-love. I believe that we can't love someone else if we don't, first, learn to love ourselves. It's easier said than done so I very often watch, read, reread, and write about topics of self-love.

Today, I came across a TEDx WhiteRock video "Change Your Closet, Change Your Life | Gillian Dunn | TEDxWhiteRock"

I spent 15 minutes intently watching Gillian convey her message. Gillian is a hospital Emergency Room (ER) Nurse.

The core messaging behind her talk are:

After the video, I felt really inspired. 

I sat back to reflect on what I had in my life that I save to use later because it's "too expensive", "too flashy", "too nice", "too big" to use right now. Then, dawned on me that I have dresses that have been sitting in my closet, shoes sitting in their original box, and jewelry I barely wear. 

I'm not the only one and others I know are in the same position - whether we want to admit it or not. I want to do something about it.

What now?

In July 2022, I will be hosting a ladies gathering just like Gillian did. I will be inviting a group of ladies to come over to our home for a gathering to appreciate ourselves.

Theme: Appreciating Me As Me - Not Letting Today Pass


The guidelines are:

And, the party happened!

Mid-August 2022, a few of my awesome lady friends came over for this event. When I say ladies showed up, they really showed up

Us ladies chose to wear a tiara, high heels, jewellery, prom dress, PRIDE parade dress, maternity dress, and everything else that made us look fabulous. Every single lady took 'prom-like' photos by the staircase strutting their beautiful selves. 

We also cooked delicious meals, which we ended up devouring. It was so good that some of our loved ones crashed the party to eat some too.

One of the ladies caught me off guard when she suggested we showcase what we brought to share with others. "WHAT A GREAT IDEA! I HAD NOT EVEN THOUGHT OF THAT!" I said.

From there, ladies started bringing boxes and boxes of things into the room. We're talking clothing, home-made greeting cards, toiletry, books, art supplies - much of it were brand new. Unopened, unused, or barely worn. It was such a delight watching all of us going "shopping" for these amazing goodies. We each took a bag (or three) of our newest treasures home - free.

It made me realize that a lot of the stuff I own might not bring me joy anymore but it brings other people SO MUCH JOY. That if I don't share these, they'd be hiding in the closet or sitting on the shelf somewhere collecting dust. 

The best part about the entire gathering is the fact that these ladies opened up to share inspiring stories. From choosing to adopt a little one when they themselves were a teenager; to dealing with trauma; to experiencing camping in the woods alone for 2 weeks; to working multiple jobs to support extended family; to losing old friends but making new ones; to moving to Canada on a single suitcase; to life after the Miss World competition

These stories must go on!!! 

The power of gathering great minds together is our ability to lift each other up. The opportunity to make more friends who have the same values as us is honestly priceless. The chance to hear from my friends makes me so darn proud of where they are in their life. These are the happy moments that money can't buy. That's what makes these gatherings so special to me.

Well, this party is definitely happening again in the near future.