Appreciating Me As Me - Not Letting Today Pass

Author: Weiting Bollu | February 2022

For those who know me, I am very big on self-love. I believe that we can't love someone else if we don't, first, learn to love ourselves. It's easier said than done so I very often watch, read, reread, and write about topics of self-love.

Today, I came across a TEDx WhiteRock video "Change Your Closet, Change Your Life | Gillian Dunn | TEDxWhiteRock".

I spent 15 minutes intently watching Gillian convey her message. Gillian is a hospital Emergency Room (ER) Nurse.

The core messaging behind her talk are:

  • We buy things to fill up our closet for 'someday' or whatever excuse that comes up.

  • Have you ever thought about the priceless moment of TIME?

      • Best expressed by example: When we arrive in the ER, we don't show up in our nicest clothes or the most expensive watches. One moment can change your life where you may never get to drive that fancy car or wear those fancy stiletto shoes.

  • Life is what we make it. Make sure we enjoy it.

  • It's not YOLO - You Only Live Once. It's not about breaking the bank to buy something you don't have. It's about using what we already have.

  • The gift of life is TODAY. Stop waiting for that 'someday'.

After the video, I felt really inspired.

I sat back to reflect on what I had in my life that I save to use later because it's "too expensive", "too flashy", "too nice", "too big" to use right now. Then, dawned on me that I have dresses that have been sitting in my closet, shoes sitting in their original box, and jewelry I barely wear.

I'm not the only one and others I know are in the same position - whether we want to admit it or not. I want to do something about it.

What now?

In July 2022, I will be hosting a ladies gathering just like Gillian did. I will be inviting a group of ladies to come over to our home for a gathering to appreciate ourselves.

Theme: Appreciating Me As Me - Not Letting Today Pass


  • For every lady to show up feeling beautiful, confident, and awesome.

  • Whether they are going to be in post-partum recovery like me, or thinking about going up for a promotion, or starting a new business, or going through personal mental health battles - I want us to celebrate it. It's going to be a toast to ourselves, and to each other.

  • There is no better day than today.

The guidelines are:

  1. Pick an outfit that you deem "there has not been an occasion to wear this (again)." This can be shoes, hat, jewelry, makeup, or otherwise.

  2. Bring an item that you deem "it's a little too nice for myself and I'm waiting for a special occasion to share this." This can be drinks, snacks, candles, perfume, cutlery, glasses, or otherwise.

  3. Bring something that no longer brings us the joy we once felt when we purchased it. Other ladies can take a look to see if we can make use of your treasure in our closet. We will also donate to a local charity if there are leftover gems.

  4. Bring items you already own and have barely used. It must not be newly bought.

After I host the event, the experience will be shared below.

Work In Progress