Very early on, Vishal started picking names to ‘get ahead start’. We landed on Kian because it has multiple ethnic origins of Hindu, German, Persian, Arabic, and Gaelic. It has several meanings such as Royal, Ancient, and King. Being interracial as we are, I was sold on the former.
At the time of writing this, I am just over halfway there at 22 weeks and 5 days. Over the course of this time, I’ve noticed my body go through changes that I didn’t think was possible. The main one is the stretch of my abdomen. I stare at it in shock as it starts to stretch outward. What is going on?! OK, don’t answer that. What I really mean is that I know what’s going on but I still can’t believe this is even possible.
The next thought in my mind is how is my body going to go back to where it was before? What I read is that it might never go back to where it is and that is freaking me out.
Emotions and Mental Changes
Watching, hearing, and reading stories of women going through their journey of raising a family makes me scared but also optimistic for the future. Many will tell ladies that you can’t do both - have a family and build a career. If I’m being honest, there have been many moments where I question if I can still have a fulfilling career and be a great mom. I have some mini-existential crisis moments where I ask myself if this is the right time - even though I’ve planned for this.
While I'm still here, it seems my body and mind have no plans to slow down yet. While working a full-time job in Product Management and part-time property management, I decided I have an appetite to do a little more. With that in mind, I took on a client for a great consulting initiative, I started a venture to build a hardware product, and I took on more responsibility with more direct reports at work.
Prior to finding out I was pregnant, I was on a roll with minimal equipment harder exercises about 3X a week. Those involved a lot of movement such as jumping up and down, laying on the belly, and even some physical bruising. Hold on, before your mind wanders off in the world of “is she okay?!” Rest assured, I am fine. I used to train in Krav Maga with Kru Dan Novak at Elite Martial Arts, Toronto. Krav Maga in-person sessions are quite intense and very often than not lands me in some light purple bruising because we’re role-playing real-life street fighting. Now that I’m pregnant, none of that gear can protect me so it is advised pregnant women tread with caution (or eliminate altogether).
Now, I do light yoga, meditations, walking, and low-impact cycling. I don’t sweat the same way as I used to. I'll tell you now that it's not every day. I can't commit because sometimes, I'm just not that into it!
Prior to finding out I was pregnant, I was having lunch and dinner while regularly missing breakfast because I was “too lazy” to get some food in me. I didn’t eat any sweets nor did I munch on too many snacks each week. It was usually an intentional treat when we buy edibles outside of veggies, meats, and fruits. The treats in shops are usually too sweet for me or I was just not interested.
Now, I have a systematic breakfast every single day followed by my prenatal vitamins. I will have my lunch sometimes delayed and dinner sometimes delayed. It’s all dependent on how hungry I feel during that moment. II do more snacking throughout the day than I used to and if I eat too much, I feel extremely bloated.
I can’t lie, there are moments when I have more unintentional treats like sudden urges for bubble waffles or chips. However, the majority of my treats are still my FRUITS! I have a solid amount of cantaloupes, strawberries, mangoes, oranges, apples, berries, and bananas - all are my go tos when they are available at the grocery stores for a discount.